Arnie's response

Sorry for the late response, like you I took my time in responding letting the situation marinate in me for a minute to get a true reading of how I felt and what I wanted to say. I am going to do my best to respond in sequential order. I don't think any work related issues were part of you "acting out." As far as communication with others, if you can remember I didn't automatically change when I got a girlfriend. I sensed something was different in our friendship when you would respond to me in one word answers and ultimately ending in the chicken incident. Well before that, the night I introduced you to Crystal in our parking lot, you acted real funny. I didn't mention anything to her because I was more confused than anything but after later conversations I found out she felt the same way. So from there I felt like there was a tension, not sure if it was because of Crystal or what. So from the beginning I didnt change, it was off of a suspicion. Should I have come to you earlier...probably, but I wasn't sure what was going on in the beginning. As far as "big cutbacks" I only make cutbacks when I feel like it could hinder my relationship. I initially introduced you to Crystal and I didn't like the response I received. Remember, this is before the chicken and before the conversation. When she conveyed the same concern to me is I decided to fall back. I have female friends and she knows it. She 100% trusts me and vice versa. Our relationship is flourishing so health is not a question in our relationship. The key is if my female friend acts funny around her is when the question arises. Even Jabari asked me what was the deal that night because he was there also. I didn't have an answer.As for being a true friend I'm not perfect, but being in this relationship has strengthen my view of a true friend. My friendship has not only changed with her but to all of my other friends. It is definitely a good situation for me. Therefore if I consider you a friend...a true friend, I hold that dear to me also because I see my friendship circle shrinking. When stepping into another realm mentally and spiritually, things in your life change, including friends. Ive have to seperate myself from certain things which detatched me from certain friends. I don't question my ability to be a friend...a true friend.Lastly, I believe you are a person who is searching for the truth in life and I think that is good. I believe we can still be friends as long as the lines of communication are clear. I don't really know what that was the night I introduced you to Crystal. As far as I know you could have had a bad day, but I do know how it appeared and it wasn't a good look. It set a flag off in my mind and also in hers. At this point, how she sees things is important, especially with my friends of the opposite sex. Again, she trusts me and vice versa. We both have friends of the opposite sex but we know our boundaries. But as far as friends, I can never have enough true friends, they just don't come that often. Rae.P.S. I hope I did not offend you, I am just being speaking real.