Resolution

Well, we talked yesterday and things are back to where they should be. We are on speaking terms. I was able to get everything that needed to be out - out. He seemed to understand me more - respect me more. He learned something. I on the other hand do understand his p.o.v, although I cannot totally agree with it. As far as our friendship is concerned, he said he purposefully backed off because he did not want to hurt me. He said he was afraid. He has hurt someone in the past and he is still dealing with it as of today. The last thing he wants is to put someone in that predicament again. I guess he was afraid of leading me on. He said that when we were together, there was tension. He felt that if we were to try to go back to how things were in the beginning, that we would go down the 'wrong path' again. He said he knew himself and he knows where it would go. He does not want to go there...and subsequently hurt me in the end.
So I guess what I dont understand is how he has a girlfriend, right... but he can't truley be-friend me because something may happen. If that is the case, then should you have a girlfriend right now? Are you being true to yourself and your feelings? I'm not sayin dump her and get with me...what I'm saying is that if you truly are feeling someone - I mean TRULY feeling them - could someone else's friendship really sway you in a different direction? If so, are you being true to yourself?
Men think differently from women. Me - if I am truly feeling someone - there is no one else. No one will sway me. I am thinking soley on that ONE. Everyone else is nothing. Granted, I do believe there will be challenges along the way. I don't know. Perhaps I am thinking too deep. Perhaps, I am trying to create hope. Do I believe his relationship with her will last? To be honest...no. I think there is someone out there who may be a better fit. Maybe...